This weekend at the Battle for Balance Bible Conference, I spoke to the women on being a Proverbs 32 woman. We had a good laugh as we discussed the intimidation that has been created surrounding the woman described in Proverbs 31. I have women tell me that they quit attending women’s events because every conference always had a session about the “Proverbs 31 woman.”
The Proverbs 31 Woman is a Prototype
I think its important for us to relook at this one in a new light. First of all, the chapter contains the instructions of a king to his son. This king is wanting his son, the future heir to the throne, to make wise choices with his life so that he will be a good man and a good king. As he ends his instructions, he describes the type of woman his son should look for as he seeks a wife.
Break the verses down into their sections and you will find character traits that this prototype is built upon: virtue, trustworthy, hard worker, caring, planner, etc. This is so helpful because when we read the passage many women get the idea that this woman never sleeps, and runs 24/7 making the world around her perfect. I don’t believe these are the conclusions that we are suppose to draw from this passage.
God Has Called Us to be Ourselves
Read through the principles in Scripture regarding this subject and you will find that God has clearly made us exclusive and exceptional for His glory. We are not like anyone else and we are not suppose to spend our days trying to be a copy of someone else.
Women tend to struggle with the trap of comparison. We assess our friends, the girls we work with, and the women sitting around us at church. We struggle to determine if we meet up to the standard. The problem is that we often are not sure what the standard is or we have embraced the wrong one.
Scripture teaches us that we are called to look like Jesus in every area of our life. This calling is not a pie in the sky idea but has been guaranteed to us by the Holy Spirit through the resurrection power of God. We are at our best when we are completely us — operating completely in Him.
This weekend I encouraged the women to be Proverbs 32 women. Study Proverbs 31 and pull the character traits from the detailed descriptors. Then ask yourself, “Do I have that character trait?” “What do I need to change in my life to obtain this trait?” “What does Scripture tell me to do to look more like Jesus in this area?”
As you discover areas that you need to work on, don’t get discouraged but be encouraged in the power of God that is available to you for change. Set out to be the best you possible and allow God to do his work in you. Stop comparing yourself to the standard of size, looks, dress, money, friends, etc. Begin to compare yourself to the standard of Christ and you will find that you far exceed anything earthly. As you change your mindset, you will find an unparalleled woman incomparable in every way — YOU!